A few years back I was invited to a Goth inspired Valentines Day party. Women were instructed to wear wedding dresses, dark Gothic makeup and bring things to destroy. And I thought to myself, “there has got to be a healthier way for Christian single ladies to spend their day.” So I am writing this because when you are single, Valentines Day can suck… But it doesn’t have to.
1. Exchange Cards… In my house we spent the Valentines Day around a fancy dinner. Afterwards we exchanged handmade cards to everyone. I know, it sounds like elementary school. But It was really sweet to hear what every member of the family (even the less expressive members) loved and appreciated about you. And, it was nice to spend time articulating what you loved about every member of your family. I know some of you may not have close relatives but I suspect that this can be just as fun with a group of close girlfriends.
2. Care for Someone Else… One way to get you to stop your pity party is to help someone who has it worse off. I read a blog of a lady who spent her day going around downtown Colorado Springs handing a rose and wishing a, “Happy Valentines Day” to the homeless. There are so many people who just needed to be reminded that they are loved. Whether it is volunteering at a soup kitchen, helping at an old folks home or the simple and sweet gesture of giving out roses, you can be that reminder of love.
3. Throw a Dinner Party! Why not? I mean, I probably wouldn’t suggest a Goth themed party. But how about a party with both single men and women. Play games, have fun and celebrate Christian brotherly love between friends. There are some fun clean games here: http://www.divinedinnerparty.com/adult-birthday-party-games.html
4. Take Someone You Admire Out to Lunch… There have been so many, strong, elderly, inspiring Christian women in my life. They have learned a lot about love and life. In having the privilege of watching their walks and their everyday love for God I have learned so much. If you are lucky enough to have someone like this in your life, you should let her know. Take her out to lunch, buy her flowers, and tell her how much you really love her.
5. Spa Day… Yeah I know its cheesy and cliché but that doesn’t mean that its not awesome! You can do this in your home with girlfriends—suggestions here, http://www.homemadesimple.com/en-US/Crafts/Pages/Host-a-Spa-Party.aspx). But if you have the funds, you should try to go to a day spa. The experience of going out and getting pampered with a couple of friends is fun and makes for special memories.
6. Father Figure Date… Also a bit cheesy, but it can be fun. When I was younger my dad used to take me out on dates to hear an orchestra, to the park, to a French restaurant, and sometimes just for pizza in the parking lot of pizza hut. Maybe you don’t have a significant other this Valentines Day but if you have a special man in your life, a father, brother, or father / brother-figures then don’t pass up on the opportunity to go out on a date with that very special guy in your life.
7. Celebrate Your Little Loves… Maybe it’s just because I have 7 nieces and nephews under the age of 5 that I think kids need to be reminded of how special they are EVERYDAY. When you are about to fall into a state of depression due to your single status, pick up the phone and call that child in your life that brings you joy. Trust me, I have tried, it’s impossible to be sad around the laughter of a child. Invite some youngsters over to make cupcakes and cards, or take them out for a picnic at the park! Whatever you decide to do will be exciting to that little one. And their parents will probably appreciate having a few hours alone too.
Have fun all you single ladies! Also, I am curious to know what you are doing this year for Valentines Day so let me know in the comments!
